** SET  11. **

 

*** Last updated - February 22, 2003 ***


 

 

1.

Q.  Hi, I can't believe I'm writing this, I'm so nervous! First I just have to let you know how great I think it is that you're doing this, It's inspiring.  And I saw you in Down to You, that was really cool, I saw it in the theatre and I had no idea you were in it, and when I saw you it was like,
"wow that's Lucie Arnaz!"
    Well, anyway, here is my question. I heard that Desi Arnaz died in your arms...and I was wondering if you could tell me what his last words were.
It would mean a lot to me.
Thankyou,
Alison

Lucie:  Thanks for the kind words, Alison.  I hope you enjoy reading all these as much as I enjoy answering them.  "DOWN TO YOU" was a delightful experience.  A terrific director, Henry Winkler to hug and Freddie Prinze, Jr to mother.  Who could ask for anything more?

My dad did pass as I held him, Alison.  However, unlike the movies, people with serious illnesses (especially those on pain medication) don't always die with a memorable phrase on their lips.  They are often in and out of consciousness for days before.  As was the case with my dad.  But, the last real words I can remember him saying were to my mother on the phone as I held it up to his ear.  She had just said, "Desi, I love you.  I love you.  I love you." and he said, "I love you, too, Honey."  By the way, that was Nov. 30, 1986.  It would have been their 46th wedding anniversary. (Come to think of it, that was better than the movies!)

 



2.

Q.  Hello.
I have acquired all of the Here's Lucy shows and I must say I have enjoyed every moment. What an awesome show and I love watching you in the shows. You have so much talent!! And your hair was awesome! You looked like you were having so much fun on the show. I was wondering if your father watched the show every week to see you and your brother? Did you go to regular school while you were doing the show? An did you have any favourite teachers from your school years?
Thanks~!
Eva

Lucie:  EVA!  That's great! (Especially the comment about my awesome hair!  HA!  I'm trying to bring the style back right now!)  My dad watched the show all the time and would call and congratulate us after certain more adventuresome episodes.  He was a great support to both Desi and I throughout our careers.  While I was on "Here's Lucy", I had to get my books and lesson plans from my real high school (Immaculate Heart High School in Hollywood) but, I had to be taught by a tutor just off the set for my junior and senior years.  I had a great tutor, too.  Irene Burke.  She was a sketch.  A real firecracker (and she liked her cocktails after the sunset) but an excellent teacher.  (I went through three years of French in a year and a half!)  She even travelled with us on 'hiatus' (when the company had weeks off) to continue school.  It was only three hours a day but it was one on one and so much more concentrated and you sure couldn't disappear to the back of the room and hope not to get called on!!

But, I eventually did attend the graduation ceremony with my class from Immaculate Heart (at the Hollywood Bowl, no less!).  IHHS was (IS) a fabulous school and I loved every precious minute I spent there.  And yes, I did have some favorite teachers while I was there.  Loretta Jasmin, who taught Gym and coached all the teams and I still correspond regularly.  Eloise Kline, my English teacher (and a terrific poet, in her own right), Janet Weber (who still teaches in the Art department there) is the most creative, inspirational, tireless artist I've known and she and her students are the heart and soul of that school -- My first drama teacher was Sister Suzanne (formerly Sister Doulé).  She was a SAINT, with the kindest temperament and the happiest, wackiest sense of humor I'd ever seen and an absolutely excellent drama teacher.  We used to get our production reviewed by Daily Variety!!!!!!  Sister Suzanne died that year of cancer.  It was one of the saddest moments of our lives at school.  And the woman who is STILL an inspirational support in my family's life, my ex-biology teacher (I failed, hysterically) who became Principal for years and years and now runs the joint, Sister Ruth Anne Murray.  These sisters  changed my life as I got to watch them go through hell trying to update into the 20th Century and change theirs.  They were my heroes and they still are.

 



3.

Q.  Hi, I'm a big fan of yours . My question is did you ever star in The Norman
Conquers
with Ken Howard and Craig Wasson? Were they nice ? And How was it
working with Mike Connors in Here's Lucy? Elena

Lucie:  Elena -- I think you mean "The Norman Conquests" and no, I didn't.  Ken Howard and Craig Wasson and I starred in a silly little picture (that was never promoted by the studios that made it) called "SECOND THOUGHTS" (which I've always said I should have probably had before making it!).  But, Ken and Craig were a gas.  We LOVED working together and filming in Santa Fe, NM.

As for Mike Connors, I have to confess.  It seems like a thousand years ago and all I remember was that he was a pro and a gentleman and quite good at playing the straight man for my mother.



4.

Q.  Hi, Lucie:  I've noticed that in the dozens of questions and answers you've posted on your website, you have made only passing reference to Gary Morton.
What kind of person was he?  Did you and your brother have a good relationship with him?
Thanks for taking the time to consider my question.   You are a truly wonderful, spiritually whole person whom I admire greatly.
Harvey Brownstone

Lucie:  Well, Harvey -- I thank you for your description of me.  I hope that's true.  I'm working on it.

And, well, gosh -- I mostly answer what people have asked.  So, I guess not many questions have come up about Gary.  But, let me tell you, he was a big kid.  Loved to be silly and make jokes - nearly all the time.  Made my mother laugh constantly, which was what she appreciated most about the relationship, tried really hard to be a good dad to Desi and me (which, now that I have had the adventure of being a stepparent, myself, I can tell you is a hell of a lot harder than you think it's going to be) and he had excellent taste - in architecture, decor, clothes, cars, music.  I developed my musical likes and dislikes from both of my dads.  Gary knew, worked with (as a comic) and listened to the music of the greats - Ella, Bobby Darin, Sinatra, Rosie Clooney, Sammy Davis, Dean Martin, Joe Williams, Tony Bennett, Lena Horne, Keeley Smith & on & on and I learned to love and really appreciate those kinds of songs.

He died in 1999 of lung cancer (just like my dad did in 1986!) and his widow, Susie, and I still miss him.  Thanks for asking about him.




5.

Q.  Lucie,
    I hope you get this. My name is Becky Bailey. I'm 13 and I'm from Manchester Ohio. I'm a fan of your mom. I'd like to ask how it feels to be in the spotlight and have most people around the world knowing your name. Is it really cool or is it kinda weird? I've heard from people that work in the museum in Jamestown that you are a very nice person. I went to Jamestown the week after you so most of them had met you. I hope you get this because I just think it would be sooo cool to talk to you!
                  Becky Bailey

Lucie:  Becky -- Thanks.  That's a very hard question to answer.  Sometimes it's nice (mostly when they are recognising some work that I've just done).  But at other times it can be depressing because they know my name or my face but only because of who I'm related to; which feels "weird" like you said, and I sometimes have to work very hard not to let that upset or depress me.  It's up to me to "show up" more often myself so that folks have something about me to talk to me about.  I have always known that, but, for the last 10-12 years I have had to slow all that down to be a good mother to my three children and so I lost a bit of traction in that area.  Hopefully it will all even out soon.




6.

Q.  Hi, Lucie, I just spent a 1/2 hour reading all your previous questions and answers as I just found this site, and I'm thrilled to have the opportunity to write to you.  I'm 33 and from LI, NY.  Years ago, I was lucky enough to see you on Broadway in They're Playin' Our Song and you were brilliant - I have the CD and play it all the time.  I love your voice so much.  Also, I adored you in The Jazz Singer - you were so incredible in that and I watch it at least once a year like a
tradition.  Are you still friends with Neil Diamond??  You had great chemistry with him and your acting was incredible, I love that film.  I would also like to thank you for making that wonderful documentary about your parents - I know it was a labour of love for you and Desi and your hard work shines through!!  KRS

Lucie:  KRS (are you male or female?? :-) ), I'm so happy that you got to see "Song" and that you remember it so well.  (You were about 11, right??)  And I loved "THE JAZZ SINGER", too.  I wish I still kept in touch with Neil.  But, we had such a full and satisfying relationship making that film together, it can last forever and make up the difference.  I still buy his albums.  The documentary "Lucy & Desi: A Home Movie", which is available for sale right here on this website (plug, plug!) was indeed a labor of love for me and a lot of emotion went into finding just the right tone.  Desi didn't produce the film but he was an invaluable source of information and I certainly couldn't have done it justice without his input.  I'm happy it moved you the way it did.




7.

Q.  My name is Rob W. Case and I was wondering a few things. I experienced "Here's Lucy" for the very first time a couple of years ago. It was on for several months and taken off. Why do you think that that series is one of those hard to find series like Lucy's "Life With Lucy?" Is it perhaps because it was so much like "The Lucy Show?" Another question I would like to ask is about the CBS TV-movie "Lucy and Desi: Before the laughter," I heard that you did not like the way they portrayed the story of your parents, what really happened? Anyway, going to you personally, I think that you were a beautiful lady in those Here's Lucy reruns. You are still pretty hot.
Thank you very much,
Rob Case

Lucie:  Rob -- Hot is good.  I'll take hot!!

And the reason "Here's Lucy" isn't on a lot here is, I guess, they have a lot of Lucy to choose from and the classic show is still the original "I Love Lucy".  "Here's Lucy" was, I thought, a pretty good accomplishment for those days, though.  Six seasons with, at least, six or seven full-fledged musicals in it each year.  Who did that?  What other show on television like that can boast that variety, those guest stars?  I was very proud to have cut my teeth on that program.  And it is being syndicated in several other countries even though you don't always find it in the U.S.

You heard right about the movie CBS did in 1990.  It was dreck.  But I didn't have to do or say much -- the reviewers and the audience said it all for me.  OY!  And they apparently are trying it again.  There's yet again ANOTHER bio on them due to air on CBS this year.  I have nothing to do with this one either -- but, this time I didn't even want to read the script.  (Life is stressful enough these days)  I hope they do a good job this time.




8.

Q.  Hi, Lucie.  I can't believe that I am writing to you.  I have loved watching I Love Lucy for years and this year my 8 year old daughter started watching.  I am happy to hear that you and your brother are doing well.  I am sure that your parents are very proud of you.  My question is related to Christmas.  What was you favourite Christmas memory? Thanks for answering.
Mary

Lucie:  Mary -- you are.  You are writing to me.  ("Clap if you believe!")

This is the time of year I do remember all of our Christmas' past and there have been dozens of wonderful ones.  But, I guess there are two that tie for 1st place.  One was waking up at 4am or something in Sun Valley, Idaho on Christmas morning (after being told for a week that we probably wouldn't have any snow for Christmas that year) and standing at the window with my brother looking outside to see if we could catch Santa in the act and seeing big, huge snow flakes fall from the sky.  It snowed all night and we had 3" by morning.  It was a miracle!

And the other would be one Christmas when we all went up to visit one of my children at the boarding school they attended and (for whatever reason) they weren't going to be able to come home for Christmas, so we took Christmas up to them.  We chopped down a baby tree in the forest, made all of our own ornaments and had to be very selective with the gifts we gave each other because we could pack rooms full of presents!  It was the most loving and meaningful Christmas we ever had.  But this year we're heading off with the whole family to a tiny beach house on Maui.  That stands to make the list for next year, I'm sure!




9.

Q.  Lucie,

I cannot begin to tell you how "The I Love Lucy Show" has touched my 36 years of life. (But I'll try :))  Growing up the middle of 3 girls, I was the proverbial middle child ( according to my therapist a few years back) and found comedy and the ability to make people laugh a pretty great way to distinguish myself from my "older prettier sister blessed with a great metabolism" and my " younger, cuter baby of the family sister".    That show  (I Love Lucy)  as well as the "Lucy Show"  and  "Here's Lucy" were wonderful companions, and sources of great comfort to a young girl.

In my early 20's, I was a victim of a very violent crime ( Burglar, baseball bat, me the ball)  I was not expected to live or come through it completely brain normal if I survived.  I, obviously (writing to you now) did, and although it took a few surgeries, and a few years of rehabilitation both physically and emotionally, today I have never been healthier and never suffered any permanent brain damage. (God is good)  The best medicine throughout those challenging, and very painful recovery years, was  I LOVE LUCY LAUGHTER.  Those shows and the dialogue that I, my Mother and 2 sisters threw at each other over the years held new uses
during this time, in diverting the actual pain of the moment and transcending us all to a place of universal laughter!!

I know you hear tons of stories like how your parents' show touched people's lives, but I needed to write this and wanted you to know how much it made a difference at that time and how all of the "Lucy" shows were wonderful medicine.

I discovered your website ( thanks to Laura) and have thoroughly enjoyed it and although I have not had the pleasure of seeing you perform live in theatre, I have television and film ( The Jazz Singer..loved you in that) memories and hope to see you soon either on the West Coast (Southern California) or travel to the East and catch you there.

I have one personal "very-chick" question.  As one woman who has changed and evolved, I noticed how you have evolved and grown up through your wonderful photos on the website and wanted to tell you that you look so fabulous!  Do you have any special regiments, diets, etc... that keep you looking so trim and healthy at the same time!!

Warm Regards,
Jo-

Lucie:  Dear Jo -- What a joy it is to be even a small part of a legacy that has done so much to heal the planet.  I thank you for sharing your remarkable story with all of us and I admire your tenacity and obvious sense of self.  You must have always known you'd survive and so you did.  Bravo!  I hear similar stories from time to time and it just serves to remind me that for whatever their own personal problems, my parents and their wonderful collaborators (the producer, writers, directors) certainly left us some magic, didn't they?

As for my own personal magic -- I am SO flattered that you think I still look good.  Not bad for half a century, right?..... (Hold it.  I have to go and pick up myself from the floor after that comment.)  Well, I whipped my metabolism into shape while being pregnant those three times, I think.  I just began to pay more attention to what and when I eat.  Also, I keep pretty active.  My work usually had me dancing and singing eight shows a week for years so I didn't have to go to gym or train.  Now, as I do less of that "sweat" work and have added a few years to my bio, I find that I have to find time to "WORK OUT" and every once in a while I'll go back to my "Somersizing" diet routine.  Suzanne Somers' way of eating.  It helps me sculpt the areas that I tend to gain.  As for wrinkles or all that stuff - Clinique products, little make up most ordinary days and excellent genes!  (Oh yeah, I don't smoke, do drugs, caffeine or eat much sugar.)  I haven't had to be nipped & tucked.  But, I reserve the right to if I want in a few years!  As long as I don't come out looking like Joan Rivers!!!




10.

Q.  Dear Lucie,
      I would first like to start off by complimenting you on the wonderful "I Love Lucy" TV Special.  You have such an amazing singing and acting talent. I wish
I could be like you! I do different theatre shows and was recently The Wicked
Stepmother in "Cinderella."
       I just heard "Heaven Knows" and I was immediately touched by your song. It is a beautiful song! I love the lyrics and of course, your voice. I am 15 years old and I write song lyrics myself. I know you didn't write it but its a great song. I live in NJ, not too far away form NYC and saw it all happen. This song has really inspired me in many ways to try to overcome this horrible feeling. Is the song available to buy and where can I get it??
       Lucie, did you ever feel out of place as a teenager, especially since your mother and father were famous? Sometimes, I feel so out of place and I just don't know what to do. What did you do?
       I would also like to say that I think it is so nice of you to respond to people's e-mails. It just shows what a nice person you are! :)

 Thanks a lot,

       Love, Renee

Lucie:  Gee, Renee -- There's a lot of meat in this email, where to start?  I was happy with the "I Love Lucy" 50th Special, too.  Considering we had to make it happen during and after September 11th!  But isn't it funny how the "Spirits" work?  "I Love Lucy" was born so that just when the world needed its most massive dose of healing laughter it could be there to give it to them.  (There are no accidents, right?)

Anyway, "Heaven Knows" is a remarkable song that I have actually had since 1990 and the start of the Gulf War.  It seemed appropriate to take it out and update the lyrics a bit and use it to sooth, now.  Glad you agree.  You can buy a copy of it.  Let Laura (my webmistress) know and she will arrange it for you.  The gentlemen who wrote it (Ron Abel & Chuck Steffan) have copies they can sell you -- All the money goes to the Twin Towers Fund.

And, trust me, we all feel awkward and somewhat out of place in our teen years - having famous parents doesn't make it easier or harder.  It's tough finding out who YOU are.  When you say "out of place" I'm not quite sure what it means to you, specifically.  But, generally, you are trying to be who too many other people want you to be right now (Because you have to.  You're young and you have to have people to guide you.)  But, soon you'll feel more comfortable making choices that are just for you.  Be true to you, Renee and make choices that are good for Renee.  Your heart knows all you'll ever need to know about good & bad - right & wrong.  Follow your heart.  Then no matter where you are as long as you are there, you'll know you're in the right place.  Good Luck!




11.

Q.  Dear Lucie:

When next you speak to your brother, please convey that a very old acquaintance sends his regards.

It was 1965 at the Hollywood Bowl. I worked for KFWB and buttonholed Desi Jr. just before the show started, asking if he could put truth to the rumour that my father (Sam Barken) had something to do with Desi Sr. coming to the USA. Junior looked at me quizzically, but when I mentioned my dad's 5 O'clock Club and Beachcomber night clubs, he got all animated, said "Wait right here!" and went running off.

A few minutes later, his dad in tow, Junior returned. There was Desi Sr., deeply tanned and with a full head of white hair, who gave me a wide-eyed look, saying "Roddy?" He then gave me a hug, slapping my back and, a bit misty-eyed, asked about my father. Seems that Senior and my dad were indeed old pals, and that Senior had attended, as part of a "minion," my bris! We spoke briefly about the "old days" in both Havana and Miami Beach, but the warmth and sincerity Desi Sr. displayed was all the proof I needed that, in fact, what my mother had always spoken of was true.

So, when next you speak to your brother, pass along my best wishes, please. We are both, I think, a link of sorts to each other's past, or at least those of our folks, and, as we age, those links become evermore important.

All the best to you,

Rod Barken
Clearwater, Florida

Lucie:  I shall do, Rod and I totally agree.  Great story and so typical of my dad.  Thanks.




12.

Q.  Several years ago, my wife and I saw you in St. Louis with your husband in "Social Security".  We thoroughly enjoyed the play but the greatest thing that night was meeting you and your husband afterwards. You both were so wonderful to stop and talk to my wife and I.  We were fans before but that really made us big fans. I would love to be able to keep up on your life. Do you have any kind of newsletter to keep your fans posted?  We've visited the Lucy-Desi Museum in Jamestown and really enjoyed it.  I'm still upset at CBS whenever I think of them cancelling "Sons and Daughters." We liked that show very much. Do you have any plans to tour with anything? What is your family doing? Are your children in show business? I'm sorry to rattle on but I'm new to this, having just gotten a computer. Please answer when you can.  My name is Michael Guill.

Lucie:  Michael -- Welcome to computer-land!  (Try to exercise your shoulders every once in a while - that's my advice to novices)  And, hey, THIS IS my newsletter!!!  Right now (and for a while) there just hasn't been much to print.  I have been occupying myself with nightclub gigs, lecture circuits and family -- But soon I'll be "on the boards" once more.  April 22 thru May 18 I'll be starring in a new play at the Coconut Grove Playhouse in Miami, Florida.  I do not have plans to tour as of now and for decades I wouldn't even consider it due to my family obligations.  But, most of my kids are at the age where, if I find a worthy project, I could conceivably do another.

My family?  My husband's touring every so often (and just closed a successful NY engagement) in one of his historical one-man portraits.  The most recent was "TEDDY TONIGHT!" on Teddy Roosevelt.  My brother writes music and records with a new group, Ricci, Desi & Billy (check out their website for details), runs a beautifully restored old historic theatre in Nevada and a Children's Ballet Company with his wife, Amy and daughter, Haley Arnaz.  My kids (22, 20, 18) are studying drums, guitar and voice respectively and are doing pretty darn well, I'm proud to say.  I give lectures on "Surviving Success" (the art of balancing work and parenting) - CD available on this site, also (Plug!  Plug!), enjoy performing on stage with my concert shows, am an active board member of both The American Theatre Wing and The Lucille Ball-Desi Arnaz Centre, Inc. in Jamestown, which manages the Lucy-Desi Museum there.

We're a very close and very interesting group.  Visit us again!




13.

Q.  Hello,

I am trying to find out if your Larry Luckinbill was ever in the Off Broadway Sullivan Street production of The Fantasticks.  I recently purchased a Playgram from the first year of the show (1960) and the gentleman that I bought it from saw the show a year later in 1961.  He remembers an actor named Larry Luckinbill, and I think it was in the role of the Boy. That name doesn't show up on the official Fantasticks web site cast replacement list, however.

I have taken a keen interest in the show after I first saw it several years ago, and am just curious if this is the right person.

Thank You For Your Time, Sincerely,

Bill Schroeder

Lucie:  YES, HE WAS!!  He wasn't the BOY, however, he was the STAGE MANAGER, he says!  The original cast!  (He's 705 years old!!)  (JUST KIDDING)  Don't know why his name isn't on their website.  For shame!  It should be.  When the play finally closed after all these years, they did list his name along with all the other stars in the N.Y. Times.  Ah, well, the fleeting, fickle face of fame!




14.

Q.  Lucie, have you ever been on Oprah?
--
Chris Zambito

Lucie:  Dear Chris -- Yes.  Twice.  She's an amazing gal, isn't she?  Do you realise that she almost single-handedly changed the talk show genre back into something worthwhile?  That takes guts and class and she has plenty of both.  I am one of her biggest fans.




15.

Q.  Ok, what the freak........ Im probably the only African American that is a
Lucy fan/Lucie fan. My girls and us watch I Love Lucy from the depths of my
ghetto. I struggle every month to pay the cable bill just so I can watch my
beloved Lucy, and BET. Now girl, I almost drove my self back to my cocaine
addiction when I heard the museum closed. My thank the Lord all Mighty, and
he be mighty, that it reopened. Just write back to, or ill rip my corn rows
right out. U and yo mama are what got me out of life of drugs. Now here are
the questions......

When you were growing up did your mom ever give you advice about guys, and
if so what was it?

What was Lucy's fav chick flick, besides the ones that she's in.. and what
kinda music did she jam to?

Thankyou fo all of yo time, Evian Sheniqua JR.

LucieWell, Girl!  You go!  Love your ATA-TUDE.  But, hey, you are not the only one, I assure you!  Lucy knows no colour.  (Hey, even the show was in BLACK AND WHITE!!)  And, truth is, our museum NEVER closed.  The organisation which had been managing it at the time wanted people to think that.  They tried to tell people that my brother and I wanted to move it out of Jamestown.  We never wanted that.  We just had to get it into more capable hands, which it now is and the doors only closed for a weekend during the transition period.  Please come and visit our new & improved website and see how far we've come in less than a year (Lucy-Desi.com).

Now here are your answers.

Advice from Mom about guys?  Only once.  "NEVER let a man touch you there."  And I never even asked.

Fav "CHICK FLICK" -- I'm not sure I know that.  She was in and very proud of "Stage Door" and if that's not a real CHICK FLICK, I don't know what is!

Music she'd "JAM" to? -- (HA!  That's cute right there - the image of my mother JAMMIN') -- Well -- She loved Bobby Darin's "MACK THE KNIFE," I hope this helps, 'cause I do not want to see you with little bald patches all over your head, woman.  :-)




16.

Q.  Hi, Lucie:
I have to say first hand this is a great website.  My partner Tim and I are avid ILL fans!! We love watching the old series and they sure make us laugh.

I wanted to tell you, about 22 years ago, I was a flight attendant for a major airline and your mother came on board from New York To LA.   Well, much to my surprise, your mother and Gary Morton walked on board our flight to LA.  I was so stunned, I didn't know what to say!! Being a Lucy fan all of my life, I was just flabbergasted and so honoured to have your mom aboard. She looked fabulous, just like on TV.  She was very kind, smiled, and even signed an autograph for me.

Well, long story short, our passengers got wind that LUCY was on board. She got up from the first class cabin, and walked in the main cabin taking pictures with fans, signing autographs, and telling funny stories.  She sure made our flight go fast.  NEVER have I met someone so nice as your mother.  She certainly brought laughter into our family for years, and my favourite I Love Lucy show is when Your mom and Vivian Vance made bread!! It is my all time favourite!!  I have not yet attended the anniversary shows, but I'm still flying, and I have a picture of your mom and me and my crew that I carry on flights.  It has become our good luck piece, and the day your mother passed, I was so saddened.  It's great to see that your carrying on her life, and this website is so awesome, I sent it to several
of my friends who are Lucy fans as well. So now, each Tuesday night we have a I Love Lucy Party and watch the shows on tape.

I want to thank you for this website, and thank you for the many many happy memories.    I hope to see the museum when I visit new York again. Thanks Lucie....this is a great website!

Sincerely,

Robert and Tim Zank
Eau Claire, Wisconsin

Lucie:  Robert & Tim -- What a lovely story.  I'm so happy to have that picture of her on that flight in my mind.  She could sure slay 'em when she wanted, couldn't she?  And I'm delighted that you enjoy our site.  Laura Johansen does an incredible job of keeping it fresh and making it interesting and easy to navigate.  (A round of applause for Laura, please!)

However, since you're both such Lucy fans, you should really be visiting sites about her or the "I Love Lucy" shows.  May I recommend Lucy-Desi.com, LucyLibrary.com & WeLoveLucy.com.

Thanks for visiting us and hope to see you at one of my performances or talks one day.




17.

Q.  Hi, Lucie

Just want to say I was surfing through and came across your exceptional website,  I have just two questions....
1)   You look absolutely fabulous!!  We are the same age and I am on the Adkins Diet as we speak.  What are your secrets for staying in shape or were you lucky and inherited excellent genetics and your mother's slim trim figure?

2)  As a child and teenager, who were the idols and heroes that you looked up to?

Thanks for the wonderful website and sharing with your  fans!   Most Gratefully,  Bev Taliaferro

Lucie:  Bev -- You're very kind and I guess my response to Jo above would be appropriate for your question, as well.  As a younger person, my heroes, if that's what we want to call them, are the same as they are now - ordinary people.  People who get and keep pretty ordinary, "keep the world turning type jobs," who sacrifice for their families by doing jobs that don't always get the applause and who still manage to be "present" for the children.  People who pay their bills and don't try to cheat anyone, who don't break the law, who give back to society and help their neighbors.  These men and women have always been the people I wanted to be like.




18.

Q.  Dear Ms. Arnaz,
       Thank you so much for answering all of our ?s; we really appreciate
it. 1st off I'd like to say that I'm a huge fan of your whole family, I'm
fourteen years old and I watch it almost every night. Anywho...(hehe) I
have just finished reading your dad's book, "A Book" , and I'd like to  ask
a ? about it.  I know your mom was still alive when he wrote it and I was
wondering what her reaction to the book was. Did she read it? Did she help
write it? Was she happy he wrote all those things? Did she get mad or
embarrassed by some parts? Well...I know you're a busy woman and have lots
of things to do so I'll let you go and do them.

                           I Love Lucie, Lucy, and the 2 Desis,
                                        Noel Mayo

Lucie:  Dear Noel -- First of all, let me say how impressed I am that, at fourteen, you have even found, much less read my dad's autobiography.  Wasn't it a great read?  Truthfully, Noel, I cannot remember exactly what my mom's first reaction to it was (I was a very self-absorbed 23 year old at the time), but I certainly don't remember her being upset about it either.  (And, trust me, she would have made sure we knew if she was!)  She certainly read it.  She did not help him write it.  He did that completely by himself at his houses in Del Mar, California and in Baja.  But, he surely would have called her to jog his memory from time to time.  They were always very supportive of each others' ventures.

I don't think there were any portions of the book that would have been embarrassing to my mother.  If anything, he kept all the details fairly tame and humorous re: his amorous escapades.  Too bad Dad never got to read her autobiography, which she never told us she'd written back in 1964 and shelved.  We found it after she passed away and published it a few years ago.  It's called "Love, Lucy."  Give it a whirl.  It's a different perspective of the same years.  But she too - was kind and didn't vent too much.  But, for some reason, she felt it wasn't "safe" to publish then.  Who knows?!




19.

Q.  Dear Ms. Arnaz:

First of all I would like to tell you that you are not only a Great Performer, but also an inspiration to the Latin American Community.

I've moved to South Florida about 3 years ago from Connecticut (which by the way I miss, not the cold LOL) and I was just reminiscing today at work with my boss and your name came up.

You did a show at The Bushnell  in Hartford, CT, (sorry can't remember the exact year) but my partner and I went to see it, it had snow something wicked that night and we thought of not going due to the weather, well to this day I thank God I did, for that night you pulled me from the audience, due to the fact that one of your dancers was sick that night and I helped you out, and you sang a song to me which I believe it was "It had to be You," which was a thrill not only to me but also my partner.

You probably don't remember, but that will be in the landscape of my mind for years to come. You brought a smile to face today while I told the story...  So I want to say..."Gracias" for making my rainy Monday a brighter one.

Yours truly
:o)
Luis E. Gonzalez

Lucie:  Luis -- I do remember.  Very clearly.  My dear, darling Austin Kirby had taken suddenly very ill (we later found out he was suffering with AIDS and a year later he died.  He was only about 23).  But, that night we didn't know what to do!  "The show must go on," sure, but how, with props that had to be rushed on from stage left AND stage right simultaneously and I only had TWO dancers??  It was a huge number (NOT "It Had To Be You."  I never sang that.)  I believe the number you helped out in was Billy Joel's "Modern Woman."  Right?  Someone threw a ton of cheap orders at you in the wings, told you what to carry and where to go and someone on stage (me?) pointed you back off again.  It was great theatre!!  And we all pulled it off thanks to your gutz and chutzpah!  Austin's death was a terrible loss to me.  He was with me from the very beginning and sometimes a dancer would have to quit to take a better gig or a play (it was never Austin), he'd stay and re-rehearse the show and teach all the numbers to the new guy.  He was a gift.  When I lost him, I couldn't bear finding someone to replace him.  I eventually took the dancers out of the show and travelled with two vocalists instead.  Today I usually work alone.

But thank you, Luis, for being such a terrific sport and saving the day for us.  I'm so glad to have contact with you to tell you how much that night meant to all of us, too!!!  You're the best.




20.

Q.  Hi, Lucie!
My name is Tommy Juarez. Yes, I know the last name is Spanish, but my own Spanish speaking abilities are horrible!! I can barely read "Taco Bell's" menu! I know you say that your Spanish is not that great, but believe me, I'm sure you've got me beat by a mile!

I am 35 years old and have been a huge fan of your family since I was in diapers! My mother used to laugh at me because she said that when I was a baby, I would sit in front of the TV to watch The Lucy Show and every time, at the beginning of the opening theme song and credits where they would show the various facial expressions your mother was so famous for, I would cry out loud every time they showed that one short clip of your mother crying! I don't remember that, but mothers seem to remember everything!...Believe me, just sending you a hello and a question here and there is such a treat and an honour, I appreciate you so much for taking time to read our curious questions and answering them in your own "down-to-earth" way.

It is so evident that you strongly have both of your parents' talents and abilities, not only as an actress and singer, but your Father's talents in directing and producing! Have you ever considered extending Desilu, Too, into a television production power house the way your Father built it? Or do you feel that the former Desilu is in its own era and should remain in the past? I personally think that it would receive a huge and healthy response. I just feel that we need more quality family programming and I know that Desilu had a standard for that back then. You also mentioned in "Lucy and Desi: A Home Movie" that your father took care of your grandmother until the day he died...Did your grandmother outlive your Father? What did she do in her later years?

I am sending this to you from beautiful Colorado Springs, Colorado...When are you coming near this way to entertain us? We would absolutely love to have you here!

Thanks again, Lucie...God Bless You!

Tommy Juarez
Colorado Springs, Colorado

Lucie:  Well, Tommy, I so appreciate your compliments and comments on my career accomplishments.  I love what I do and it helps me to do it well when I get feedback as supportive as yours.  Thanks.  As for creating a Desilu, too production company, I already have one.  It's called Just Arluck Productions.  Desilu was appropriately a combination of the first names of the people who were involved in its production (Desi and Lucy) and my husband, Larry Luckinbill, and I created a similar company (for which we produced "Lucy & Desi: A Home Movie") with a tip of the hat not only to Desilu but to my grandmother, DeDe Ball, who was known for signing her name as "Just DeDe."  We hope we are continuing the same kind of quality programming & theatrical productions for which Desilu was known.

And Dad did care for his mother (my grandmother), Dolores Arnaz, throughout his lifetime.  He provided 24-hour, round-the-clock care for her when she began to suffer terribly from what turned out to be terminal arthritis which eventually left her crippled and with total mental deterioration due to Alzheimer's Disease.  She really didn't do anything much during her life (I guess maybe she never got over not being the wealthy wife of a Cuban Mayor anymore) and after she became ill she really had very little concept of reality.  She didn't even realise that my dad had died, which was a blessing, in a way.  It must be horrible to outlive your children.  After Dad died I became her conservator and we took care of her until the illnesses finally won and she died two years later.  Someday I'll tell this entire story in great detail and it'll blow your mind.

P.S.  I'll be sure and post any performances close to Colorado Springs on this website.  I've been there.  It's glorious and I'd love to return.




21.

Q.  Hi, Lucie

When I think of you, I first think of the movie you made with Neil Diamond. You
gave such an impressive performance that I just knew you were going to become the next Streisand or Midler on the screen.  What was the name of the movie,
was it a good experience, and will we see you in another movie soon?

Thanks, and much love,
Rick Herron
Corsicana, Texas

Lucie:  Rick, you're sweet.  Did I?  Become the next Babs or Bette?  NOT.  Oh, well.  The movie tanked but the people loved it and I came off okay with the rabid critics.  (Ouch!)  It was called "THE JAZZ SINGER" and it was a delightful experience from day one.

The film was having lots of problems at the top before I came into it and heads were flying.  I actually replaced Deborah Raffin (who I'm certain was great) due to insecurities from the top.  But once it all settled down and they acquired a new director, Richard Fleisher, who could make Mr Diamond feel safe, we were on our way.

I loved working with Neil.  He was such a pal to me and he's not a little bit cute - right??  And need I even tell you what it was like for me to be allowed on the set to watch Sir Laurence Olivier work whenever I wanted to?  We only had two scenes together, but, I never missed a chance to watch him process the information and create his role.  And what a kind and eloquent man.  I was a very, very lucky young lady.

I did a couple of films after that, "SECOND THOUGHTS," for the same company (EMI) and many years later "DOWN TO YOU" with Freddie Prinze, Jr and Julia Stiles (see question one and three above).  I have been in numerous  television films in the meantime, but, primarily, I have focused my energies on live performing, either Broadway, national tours, or concert engagements.  But, if ya hear of anything.......




22.

Q.  Hi, Lucie,
My name is Amy!
What do you think of the movie "Lucy & Desi: Before the Laughter," Does it tell the true story of the triumphs of what your Mom and Dad really went through as a team to make a T.V. show history?
Thanks for answering my questions. I really appreciate it. I think you are a very sweet and caring person to be taking out time to answer fans' questions.
                  Love,
                            Amy M.

Lucie:  Amy -- I have no idea how old you are or who else might be reading this, so I'll curb the expletives.  But, CBS is still trying to apologise for that.  And, well, they should.  Grade = F- !!!!




23.

Q.  Dear Ms. Arnaz,

We plan to create a motivational display for our students and we hope that you will take time from your very busy schedule to share some simple "saying" (like: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.) that someone once shared with you?

Greg Kavinsky
Principal, Innes Middle School
Akron, Ohio

Lucie:  Dear Greg -- What a great idea.  I hope I'm not too late to be included, but, here goes:

1)  My father used to tell me:  "Think things through.  And if you really cannot decide what you should do in a difficult situation, don't do anything."  (It just means that you do not have enough information yet to allow you to make a good decision.  If you wait, eventually another piece of the puzzle will fall into place and you will know what to do).  VERY WISE & I have used it dozens of times with great success.

2)  My mother would always say, "Be good to Lucie."  And, by that, she meant - make decisions that will benefit Lucie (yourself) that will not be harmful to you.  That sounds so general, but it sure does the trick.  It reminds you to take your vitamins, get enough rest, stay away from the people who are hurting themselves and just be ready to do your best job - all the time.

3)  Another very useful comment was one my husband said to me while I was tossing and turning over how to objectively AND lovingly edit the "Lucy & Desi: A Home Movie" documentary I made.  He simply said, "Follow Your Heart."  I did.  We won an Emmy!




24.

Q.  Lucie-
 Was it easy for you to get into auditions, or did you still have to "Starve" sometimes?  You are a very accomplished actress now so I just wondered what it was like for you starting out?  Thanks for you time,
Clarissa Du Bois

Lucie:  Clarissa, I wish I could say, "yes, I starved & that's how I earned my stripes."  But, truth be told, I started out on a top 10 TV show ("Here's Lucy") so, by the time I even went on my first actual audition, I had a television name/recognition and so getting seen for parts wasn't an issue.  I was usually hired without much auditioning - people wanted "a name".  Problem with that is I do not get asked to audition very often, nor even sent scripts.  Producers judge you a lot from what they "think" you do based on something else they saw, OR they think you're too big to audition so they don't even ask.  It's being stuck between a rock and a hard place as they used to say (what the hell does that mean, anyway?).  But, I have actually auditioned very infrequently in my career.  The good news is except for one or two occasions, I have gotten everything I went up for.  But, I still wish I had a track record of going through the endless rejection process so it could help toughen my skin - which has never happened.




25.

Q.  Hi Lucie,
I've always been impressed at how "real" you and your brother have been. I'm a long time flight attendant and during the 1980's your brother travelled with me numerous times. He'd hang out in the galley with us and yak until it was time to ask him to sit down. A lot of "stars" do not do that. It certainly says a lot.

I'm a frustrated actor at heart. I'm 44 years old. I'm not looking for a career but do you think I'm too old to start on a local level as a beginner?

Hugs and waves,

Todd.

Lucie:  Todd -- This is a business of gutz and passion as much as anything else.  You can never be too old for those.  Go for it.

P.S.  Desi is still yaking til it's time to tell him to sit back down.  Only now he's really starting to make sense!  :-)




26.

Q.  Dear Lucie:

David Cole wrote asking about "Life with Lucy" and whether you had attended a taping of the show.  You responded that it was 1985, had just given birth to your  third child, started rehearsals for "My One and Only" and only saw the show
on television.

I lived in Southern California in 1986 and 1987.  I was always a fan of both of your parents so when "Life with Lucy" began filming in 1986 it was a "must see" show.  I had the opportunity to attend taping on two occasions.

The first show I saw centred on Lucy and Gale Gordon's character building a tree house for their grandchildren.  Sitting in front of me was your mom's "sister" and her husband (who I believe was actually her cousin-was her name Cleo?). I recall asking her how your dad was doing (it was the fall, just prior to his death in December).

The second show I was a guest of none other than Mrs. Gary Morton, compliments of Wanda Clark, who I believe you have known for many years. Your mom and I had a mutual friend who is from my hometown of Jackson, Mississippi.  She put me in touch with Wanda and, needless to say, I got VIP treatment that night, along with a personalized, autographed picture of the star herself, which unexpectedly arrived in the mail some weeks later! (The mutual friend - more of an acquainted on my side, was not Keith T. aka "Little Ricky;" however, Keith's nephew, Chris, and my son later attended the same school; just prior to us moving back to CA last summer, we sold a drum set to Chris.)

This second show dealt with Lucy performing in a talent show at her grandchildren's school.   I seem to recall your attendance at this taping (though it could have been the first show). The very next day the network announced
cancellation of "Life with Lucy."

At one point Lucy messed up a line and she said it was because you were there and it made her nervous (or something to that effect).  Your young son was thirsty and Gary Morton practically stopped production to get his grandson a drink. Also, I recall Gary calling you "Little Luc."  Before the night was over, your son had fallen asleep in you lap.

Does this bring back any memories?  I am reasonably sure that I did not dream this experience (while a fan, I don't dream about Lucy, Desi and their kids!).

On another note, your dad is someone I would have given my "right arm" to meet. I have read his book several times.  As a kid I always thought he was a nice guy.  As I grew older, I came to admire his sense of business.

Thanks for your time and you have a great web site.

Walter Palmer

PS I agree with your assessment of "Life with Lucy."  It seems the creators were trying to re-capture the magic of the earlier shows.  An "older" Lucy, similar to a "Golden Girls" character, could have created the same laughter and delight as the Lucy of the "I Love Lucy" days.  Such is hindsight some sixteen years
later.

Lucie:  Okay, Walter.  You're really freaking me out.  I read this to my husband and he and I both think you're hallucinating!!  (Just kidding)  But, I have absolutely no, zero, zilch, nada memory of EVER seeing "Life With Lucy" filmed.  I saw tapes and I saw it when it premiered but, I never once attended a taping.... unless I, too, am suffering from Alzheimer's and need serious help (which isn't out of the question).  In any case, I will dig and dig to find my journals from that period of time.  (I do keep fairly accurate accounts of my whereabouts that way) and if I find that you are correct and I am mistaken, I will post a big note to you here, I promise, okay?  Thanks for writing and I'm happy you did get an opportunity to witness my Mom's final venture.  I'm sure she appreciated it. 




27.

Q.  Hi Lucie, my name is Breonna Jackson, and I love you and your work. Right now I'm going through a hard time dealing with my stepfather's death. He died recently, and he was only 43. He was like a father to me, and I loved him. How did you cope with your parents' death and how do you get through the days??

Thank you for listening to me.

A fan,
Breonna Jackson

Lucie:  Oh, Breonna -- Time.  It just takes time and you mustn't bottle up your grief to feel another day.  It only poisons the days ahead of you.  Feel it.  Cry.  A lot.  Talk about him - a lot.  Write about him - write TO him.  Tell him how you are feeling.  I don't believe it's simply an exercise.  They hear you.  And don't expect to magically stop being sad.  Appreciate that your sadness is your tribute to him.  He will be honoured by your reminiscences.  But if you wallow in your grief too long even he will want you to stop and move on.  He lived his life.  At some point, get back to living and enjoying yours.  God bless him and you.




28.

Q.  I just wanted you to know, that I, like so many others, have been lifted up today, on the first anniversary of 9-11, by watching one of your mom's movies.  I did the same thing a few days after it happened, a year ago, when the television was flooded with report after report, even several days later - there was a point where I just needed to be lifted up, to laugh, to remember some of the simple joys of life, so I popped "I Love Lucy" tapes into the VCR .  Who would've thought that half a century later, their light-hearted classic comedy would still be just what people need, and crave.  I think the proper phrase is" Chicken Soup For the Soul".  Or, as I like to think of it:" Comfort Television".  Well, I just wanted to say thanks to you, and hope that something lifts your spirits today, the way this is doing it for me..Gotta run....we're up to the wedding scene in "Yours, Mine, and Ours"!

Sincerely,

Margaret Anglade, D.C.

Lucie:  Margaret -- I get so many letters like yours and inevitably I end up getting thanked for a genius and a truth that was not mine.  I wish I could claim it as my own creative stroke of God's amazing hand, but, alas, it fully belongs to an entire other legion of very deserving beneficiaries.  But, I agree with everything you said and I also believe it was no accident.  When something is that powerful and that healing for that long.  It was channelled brilliance.  Thank God for it, not me.  Love, Lucie.






Q.  Lucie:

I ordered the "Surviving Success" CD (2 copies!!!! I gave one to a very grateful friend and fan of yours) and I have to let you know that it has really become a treasure!!!!  Thank you for your insightfulness and your willingness to open up and share your life experiences.  What a great job you've done.

On a final note, I am wondering what the status is of your joint nightclub appearance with Lorna Luft at the Cinegrill in Hollywood at the Roosevelt Hotel. I'm sure it's going to be a night to remember.  I haven't heard regarding what the date of the appearance will be.

Thanks again for the CD.  It's great!!!!

Steve

LucieWHAT????!!!??? (excuse the over-punctuation but I really shouted that out loud after reading your email)  That's the first I have heard about Lorna Luft and I having a "joint nightclub" act together, much less that we apparently already have a booking at the Cinegrill in Hollywood (didn't they close that place??).  No one has approached me about this and I'm sure they won't be.  I am a great fan of Lorna's but, we, most likely wouldn't put an act together (Perhaps this is why you haven't heard anything in regards to a date!!  HA!)

On the other front, I am really happy that my "Surviving Success" talk has been of help to you and your friend.  It is my truth and it's a message that was very important for me to get and I feel I am kind of obligated to share it.  Thank you for letting me know that you think so, too.




30.

Q.  Dear Lucie,
   I am as big of a fan of yours that you could possibly have! Okay, maybe someone could be more of a fan, but I do love your work. I am eighteen years old. I am studying to be a performer in Musical Theatre. I have recently discovered that WONDERFUL recording of THEY'RE PLAYING OUR SONG! I adore it. You and Mr. Klein are absolutely perfect in your roles, and I love listening to it (and singing along of course!). Also, I am a big fan of the film THE JAZZ SINGER. You did such an outstanding job, as usual, and I can't describe to you just how big of an influence you have had on me as a performer.  And now that I have gotten that off my chest, I would like to know...
what is it like to perform night after night (for a year or more) in the same role? This can apply to live theatre or television. Thank you so much, and I hope I get to see you perform some time!
Love,
Brandon (18, Arizona)

Lucie:  Brandon, Thanks so very much.  Some of the work you mention I did quite a while ago and it's very comforting to know that it can still MOVE people (some who weren't even born when I did it!).  I had a wonderful time in both "SONG" and "THE JAZZ SINGER" and I consider my work in both very honest and true.  I doubt I would go back and change much - even if I could - it just worked - and I am so very grateful to have been given those opportunities to grab and chew on.  (You know - the opportunities abound, but, we don't always use our opportunities well.)  And being in a long run?  Well, it's different with each production.  Some scripts are meatier than others, have depth that you can explore for months and months and still find different truths - others are less interesting - or less well-constructed - and the holes in the reality that we must create are easier to see and so it's harder and less fun to do night after night - filling in what the author (or maybe the director) left out.  Being on a television series is easier - because you play the same character but she can grow and change constantly as the scripts do.  But, even after a decade or so, even the best actors in the very best vehicles ("FRIENDS?") need to move on and do other work.

The thing to remember is to approach each performance (especially in the theatre where it's the same work each week) as if it's the first time your character has heard any of this, has said or thought these things - find it - each time anew.  And that's the challenge and the joy for people in the theatre.

After that, there's a whole book I could write about bearing up under the possible stresses associated with working with an entirely new set of actors/creative folk each production and dealing with each of their own set of idiosyncrasies, neurosis, egos, senses (or lack of) humor, etc.  That's probably the hardest part.  It can be very difficult.  There are some really mean & selfish & untalented people out there who can ruin it for everyone else.  But there are also the Tommy Tunes, the Jerry Hermans, the Marian Seldes, the Neil Simons, the Richard Fleichers, the Sandy Duncans, the Tony Roberts & Robert Kleins & Kevin Kleins & on & on & on & on with names you wouldn't recognise who make it all worthwhile and keep us coming back.

I hope you get to do what you love to do - it's the best thing in the world.  Bonne Chance!  Merde!  and Break a leg!



Love,
Lucie Arnaz



 

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